So I met this girl tonight and we really hit it off from the beggining. Then she said she had a daughter and I wanted to escape immediately. I guess if I had enough balls to be strait forward I would have just said so at that point. It seemed mean to me so I couldn't. I tried to start doing things to make her lose intrest. Not being a jerk just kinda acting like a wimpy dude who wont make a move. I wanted to sever things without me having to be the one who did it. I guess the first piece of advice I would ask for is how do you do this smoothly? Can it even be done smoothly? I suppose iI could have waited a while and said, "I feel like I'm ignoring my friends. I'm going to go chill with them. It was nice meeting you."
I have a friend who asked me why I wasn't doing anything and I told him why. He seemed to feel like it was no big deal and maybe she was just up for a fling. I didn't want to deal with even the possability of it turning into a situation where I hurt someone. Am I wrong to assume a girl is going to want something more?
I ended up taking her #. I have a problem being assertive when peoples feelings are involved. Alright I suck with assertiveness in general.
I feel like an asshole, and by not being able to smoothly voice or sidestep my own issues, have created the impression that I am willing to go forward with something that I am not. This has been an issue in the past and it is clear I am not figuring out how to fix this on my own.
I want to be a better person. I just don't know how.