I am 22, she is 25. We live 100 miles apart and spend every weekend together so it's not so bad. She's very independent, owns her own house, holds a very high paying job etc. (typical strong woman traits) Yet sometimes I get these vibes that she is insecure about our relationship. This past labor day weekend SHE wanted to have some weekend nights with her gals and I thought that was great. I told her I was going clubbing with my friends, and she was also going clubbing with hers. I didn't care because I trust her yet she seemed very concerned about me going even though she was doing the same thing!
She cracked a couple of jokes about me doing something with other chicks and even said she'd call me later that day to see if I was still going and what I'd be doing if I didn't go. I told her I could text her at the end of the night to say I got home ok etc, she said no it's okay. Yet later that night texted me asking me to text her when I get home safely.
Then the next day asked how it was and I said oh just the typical clubbing night, and she was like 'oh really huh'. I reassured her. I didn't even ask about what she did but she insisted on telling me all the fun she had and I said 'awesome babe!' trying to be supportive instead of jealous.
I then saw her later that weekend and reassured her further and asked her 'you know I wouldn't ever do anything behind your back right?' and she said 'yes, of course I know you wouldn't do it. I trust you.'
But does she? Why is she jealous then when she was clubbing too with her girls. And is her using a jokative tone/cracking jokes just really cracking jokes or masking her insecurity? Is she insecure/jealous? Because she doesn't come off at the type given how independent she is.