A general consensus, do most women in their 30's appreciate and want a "Nice" guy?
I'm kinda in limbo between friends & dating someone. We're both in our 30's, she's been hurt in her past and I think for the most part most men have looked at her as a trophy.
She's been fairly up front about not ready to date anyone, but we've been spending more and more time together and we get along wonderfully.
Few weeks back she told a close female friend of mine that "He's just so sweet and nice to me and everyone seems to like him".
A week ago I met her best friend a younger gay guy, I treated him just like anyone else and while he was nervous to meet me I think I made a good impression? I figured if she was good friends with him, that I'd get along just fine and we did.
Last week I did or said something while we were on our way somewhere and she 1/2 mutters under her breath "You're just so nice to me", she looked like she was going to melt for a moment and I think it caught her off guard when she said it out loud.
She's scene me around enough people and other people have told her that I'm a genuine person as well to know it's not an act when I'm around her, but on the other hand I don't know if she really knows how to feel about actually being treated decently.
I really don't know and don't want to be the proverbial jerk, but that's what it seems like so many women react to and respond to. You all seem to want a project, but I would think you'd reach a certain age and just want to be treated well. I want to step things up with this girl, but don't want to push her away either.