I was in a relationship for about 5 1/2 months up until a day ago. I had just gotten out of a bad relationship 4 months earlier, so i was a bit weary of dating. He knew that about me, but still continued to be persistant with getting me to date him. After a few weeks, he told me he wouldn't hurt me, and that I would be happy with him.After that, I told myself that he was someone I could see myself being with, so I gave in, and we started dating. He was single for 6 years before we got together.
There were a few things wrong in the beginning. He was very independent, and did things all himself. He seemed to have had a hard time letting ME in. We got into some arguements and had some rough times. We always got past them, and moved on. I wont lie, I am guilty of a few things I did wrong. In the beginning he seemed to have wanted things to be done a certain way. Like, when we argued, he wanted to be left alone, but I wanted to talk things out to find a soultion. So he got upset and started to verbally abuse me. He words were VERY unkind and VERY hurtful. He always seemed to blame everything on me when we fought. In my eyes, all I wanted to do was fix our problem, and just let it go. He has such an anger problem too. I dont know what was right with him.
I never hurt him, and I never did anything wrong, or at least I thought. But according to him, I did EVERYTHING wrong. He seemed to be very Bi-Polar too. His attitude would change daily. I was a bit weary of that in the beginning, but when we fell for each other, I promised that I would love him no matter what, and I very well meant that. I put up with him being so hurtful, and forgave him everytime he hurt me.
What I want to know is this... Is there really something wrong with what I did? Meaning should I have handled it differently? I never spoke to him in an ill manner at anytime. Even when he was so verbal and mean towards me. Like an idiot, I just sat there and took it. Could there be something wrong with him mentally? I'm just confused. He really does have an anger managment problem, and he seemed to take it out on me. He has been having a bunch of financial issues lately, and I'm wondering if he kept taking it out on me for that reason.
Am I the bad person? Or is he the unstable one? Its been very hard for me. My birthday is tomorrow, and I've just been so hurt because of this break-up. (Unfortunately his birthday is the day after mine) which makes it harder for me. I know it should be so easy for me to just walk away, but for some reason its hard. I really believe in him, and all I was trying to do was let him know that whatever it is he was going through, I'd be here. I hate to see him go, and I dont know what its so hard...
Please help with any advice. I'd really appreciate it!!