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    Polite Decline

    How do you politely decline a date invitation from a girl you know you are not compatible with, but don't want to make her feel rejected? I've had a few declines from girls that made me want to strangle them and I don't want to be someone who does something like that.
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    Why don't you just go on the date for practice? Then slip in at some point during the nightly convo that you have severe mommy issues, and can she spank you while you wear a diaper?

    That would only backfire if she were into it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rollerderby View Post
    Why don't you just go on the date for practice?
    I don't want to use her or lead her on

    Besides I have enough practice already
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    I don't think there are many ways to reject someone without making them feel like an asshole. Either they don't get the message, so you have to repeat it, or they get the message and are offended.
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    "You are the goddess of my world and I would more than anything want to plunge into the depths of your lovingly crafted soul, but I fear that you are so grand that I can't embark on such a journey without ending up frail and hopeless."

    Anything less than that and she'd over-analyze it and come to the conclusion that you are a bastard.

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    Recalling my dating days I found saying something like: I really appreciate you considered me but I am otherwise engaged, did the trick quite fine.
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    How would you want to be rejected, Mish?
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    why can't you go out and have fun as friends? зачем все раскладывать по тарелкам если можно сохранить себе и другому человеку лишнии эмоции.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Indignant View Post
    why can't you go out and have fun as friends?
    Because she doesn't see me as a friend. I can tell by her actions already that she wants more out of this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by IndiReloaded View Post
    How would you want to be rejected, Mish?
    That's a good question. Let me think about that.
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    even then, you can still hang out. it's not like you are required to sleep with her. i really don't get guys who think that by girls asking them out they want to sleep with them or have a relationship. sometimes we just really like you and want to enjoy your company.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Indignant View Post
    even then, you can still hang out. it's not like you are required to sleep with her. i really don't get guys who think that by girls asking them out they want to sleep with them or have a relationship. sometimes we just really like you and want to enjoy your company.
    Indig, I've already been there and done all that. I know where it all leads to and I know what this girl wants. I know in advance I won't be able to give it to her so there's no point in starting.
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    Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
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    Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
    Accept all as it is and do not blame
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    is it hard being all-knowing? what must one do to deserve your company? do you only hang out with girls whom YOU are attracted to?
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    i have been in the same situation before, when a guy thinks god knows what of himself. and when i asked him out, i was told, Julie i don't want to hurt your feelings but i don't see us being together. even though becoming a couple wasn't in my plans. sure, i flirt with everyone, does that mean i want you? most likely not. but you will be coming off as a jerk.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Indignant View Post
    do you only hang out with girls whom YOU are attracted to?
    Yes, pretty much. Just like everyone else. I don't really like to hang out with people I despise.

    I also hang out with girls that I'm not attracted to who don't want anything from me and who have proven to be good friends.
    Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
    Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
    Towards the sun, carry your name
    In warm hands you are given
    Ask the wind for the way
    Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
    Accept all as it is and do not blame
    God or the Devil
    ~Born to Live - Mavrik~

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