I used to think I was in love, and even after I fell out of it I still said that it was true love for a long time afterwards. Now I'm not so sure. I'm with someone I love, but I don't think I'm in love with them. I've heard a lot of people say true love is compromise: finding someone you work with; realising how lucky you are to be with them etc. That's not what I'm asking. I'm asking if you can be with someone and know, categorically, (even if it later turns out not to be true) that you don't ever want to be with anyone else. I think if I was in love the first time, it was because I didn't believe I'd ever find someone else like her. If that was true love, then I can't be in love that way any more; I'm not naive enough. Is there anyone here who can tell me they met someone after thinking they were in love multiple times - love where they talked themselves into by telling themselves how lucky they were and how perfect the person was - and this new person made them realise what true love was; that it existed without talking yourself into it, without a passing infatuation, requited and confirmed? If it doesn't really exist I can make do with what I have. I can start using those words to mean what I feel, if they don't refer to anything more profound that actually exists. But if there's a chance I could have what people write about in love songs then I know this has to end before long. I'm not quite jaded enough yet to believe that this is all love is.