Probably Being an Insecure Girl About This..

[QueenofCorona]

but this felt sort of like a kick to the stomach...email from my bf

July 17th is my family reunion this summer. It's the most PAINFUL thing EVER! When I get home that night I am coming to see you because I have to have some goodness in my day. I'd beg and plead you to come with me but I wouldn't wish the boredom on my worst enemy.

I can't explain it. Family reunions are always awkward to me and I can be shy around new people and I don't think I'd want him to meet any of the black sheep of my family but for some reason I feel weird about it. We've been together about 8 months. I've met his kids obviously and his brother...haven't met his parents yet because they travel in the winter months but they all know about me. Also, I don't think its a huge issue that I haven't met his ex wife but one of my friends thinks its the end of the world, however, she has a drama filled relationship with her bf's ex wife which I don't envy one bit. So to me its not a huge issue about the ex wife at all but this other girl thinks its just a travesty. He hasn't met any of my family yet. The only family event I have coming up is my grandma's funeral but I hadn't planned on asking him to attend as its going to be such an emotional time and I don't feel my family should meet him under those circumstances.

Is this weird or am I just reading into things too deeply?

[Cbrider]

If this was flipped and a girl I was seeing sent an email like this to me, I would be ecstatic.

I hate family reunions - anything beyond brother/sister and parents is pointless in my book, lol.

[QueenofCorona]

True. I'd be freaking if I was asked to go. What to wear, blah blah blah. What will they think?

I've always been with turds so in the back of my mind I think, "What, am I not going to be around in another 6 months? WTF don't you want me to meet your aunts and unclese for??!?!? Am I not good enough? Are you ashamed of me?"

Ugh.

[Cbrider]

Its hard, but you have to approach a new relationship with a clean slate. You can be cautious, but you don't want to drag old fears/prejudices into it. You broadcast them clear as day even if you don't mean to, men aren't entirely oblivious.

Relax - its not like he's given you any reason to worry, I certainly don't think this is.

[Asip4u]

I don't know how long you've been with this guy Q, but you come to a certain point where you know the guy fairly well. So as an outsider, i'm thinking that youre probably just reading too deep into this but again its really about whether you trust him or not.

[clingy]

I wouldn't complain. Family reunions suck.

[vashti]

You could just offer to go with him to help minimize the boredom...