hey, sorry to be a pain (this is gonna be a really long post), but i just wanted some unbiased thoughts on my relationship with my boyfriend. i don't necessarily want commitments (like us moving in together) right now, but i'd like to know that he wants the same things that i do, and that when we're both ready/able, the commitments will come.
instead of rambling, i'm just gonna put everything in dotpoints and then ask you questions.
-we have been together 2 years (we're young, i'm 19 he's 20)
-we fell in love very quickly, but since it was so quick we didn't get properly comfortable with each other until about a year ago. since then, our relationship has been fantastic
-he has a best friend that he has always planned on moving in with. i've always gone along with this, just because i don't want to push him in any way.
-i've said many times that the idea of settling down right now scares me (which is true)
-he knows that i want to go travelling, but is going at the end of next year with his two best friends for 3 months (just says he 'feels bad' about leaving me- not that i've let him see that i'm upset)
-i think that by the time we're both ready to move out (realistically 24-25), we will have been together for 6-7 years, i'd want to move out together
-i thought that or relationship would be important enough for him to rethink his plans to a certain extent, like me coming travelling with him or moving in with him and his best friend.
my question is, how do i ask him where he sees us ending up, in a non-threatening manner? i want to know if the idea of being with me for long enough to commit scares him or not. i know he loves me, a lot. please help!
thanks guys xxx