Hi everyone,
I have been thinking about posting this for a long time, until recent events really led me to seek some neutral perspectives.
So I have a boyfriend and we are together already for three years. From the very beginning I knew about his condition - he has a dissociative identity disorder (multiple personality disorder) but lapses were rare for the first year and a half. Now it's getting progressively worse.
He has two alter-egos. The main one is sensitive and caring man that truly loves me but the other one feels trapped in our relationship and seems not to love me as much. I want to make it clear that it wasn't a problem for me until his second personality has started to take the control more and more often and has been messing around with random girls. He also can be very aggressive. It scares me as right now I am in my sixth month of pregnancy and I am afraid that if this continues this way, it can be dangerous not even for me but for our baby as well.
What to do? Is it considered cheating if my boyfriend doesn't have any conscious memory of that? I am hoping the aggressiveness is due to a recent change of his medication and things will level out when the doctors will correct the doses.
What advice do you have for a girl torn between two men, who are one? I know it seems like a mess, but I do love him with all my heart, and he loves me with most of his, as much as he can. I believe we can be happy in the future, but my friends say I should distance myself for the sake of me and our baby.