Hi,
My ex and I broke up something like 4 months ago, we were living together, and I spent 2 months begging her to give me another chance. She got a new bf in 3.5 weeks. Since we are now on vacation I haven't contacted her in nearly 2 months.
I have a serious problem though; I can't stay away from her facebook page. I even have her password and it happen that I'll log on and see everything. I recently logged on, I know it's very bad and keeping me from moving on completely, and I saw that she is in trouble with her education. It seems that the reason for her academic failure, as she put it when talking to her new bf, was personal and related to me and what happened between us. She was the one who broke up with me. And before that we had our problems and it looks like she blames that on me. We had issues and I don't know how that really affected her education before the breakup because I was still loving and caring to her, she never shown (unless I didn't see them) any sign of distress. Everything was fine and I would ask and she would say it was fine and that she was happy. Even when we started she was already seeing an academic adviser, and I can't count the number of time I expressed my concerns about her academic performances.
Well I really want to move on and I'm struggling a lot. I also needed to vent this out. I feel bad about the fact that I may have screwed her without even doing it intentionally. It hurts me a lot. But I have been thinking that could be a good reason to just leave her alone for good. So I won't have to keep screwing up her life. She deserves better. But I also want to call or write to her. My sister said I'm not to blame, but I can't help to think that I screwed up the life of the first girl I ever truly loved. I went from been her "angel", the one who saved her from a promiscuous pass (she said it herself several times), to the devil who f*cked up her education.