Hi,
I have a married co-worker that I have a crush on. In addition I am married as well. My co-worker have chatted via im message at work back and forward. Usually our chats are about general office stuff or work, or about general frustrations in the office.
Recently I transferred to the team she is on (as my previous team was over loading us with work). Now that we are on the same team we have more interaction. Last week she sent me an IM asking me if I would like to go to lunch on Friday or sometime the following week. Normally she doesn't leave the office for lunch. In fact a few years ago we were kidding around that she didn't have any vacation time and I still had my maximum allowed vacation. She asked me if I wanted to donating my vacation time and I said sure, she asked what it would cost her and you could buy me lunch. Her response then was I couldn't do that as it would require me leaving the building.
I accepted her offer. We went to lunch on Friday (nothing special just to Subway) and had a nice chat. Over the weekend I haven't been able to stop thinking about her. In addition I am trying to determine if she was asking me to go to lunch to be friendly or because she also has a crush on me as well.
Am I reading to much into her offer? Would most married woman ask another married guy to go to lunch?