Hello and best regards to everyone!
I have a complicated case and I feel very frustrated for it, so please give me some honest answers. I've met a girl on social media, we've been texting for hours and both realised that we have a lot of things in common and that we like each other. We are even from the same city, so distance shouldn't be a problem. So we decided to meet in real life, which we did.
Now comes the funnier part: she is more like the shy and anxious person, never had a boyfriend even though she's very hot, and had moments when she barely spoke to me when we met on our date. But it's clear that she was happy to see me, cuz she smiled a lot and tried to participate in our discussions. I don't care for her lack of communication or shyness, i truly like her the way she is and i'm pretty sure that she understood that because I said it loud and clear. I'm also sure that I'll be able to love her truly if we'll be together, more than I ever loved anybody else.
After our date I asked her what were her impressions about it, cuz she was barely responding to my messages after. She than told me that she felt very weird and that we actually are quite different, that my body language and my voice tone intimidated her a lot. When I asked what I did wrong, she merely said "nothing". I didn't have any intention to harm her in any way, I was very nice and polite and i was very deep into the conversation on our date and I reminded her of all that. I admit that I'm bad at seductive stuff, I just try to be as honest, nice and communicative as I can. Could it be because i stold her a few innocent hugs? We didn't kiss, I haven't try any of that. Could it be because I'm 7 years older than her? She knew very well about the age difference and as far as I know, girls preffer almost always guys older than them.
I know that she's anxious and not much a communicative girl, but i can't understand why she is so careless after the date, when until then she was very responsive to my messages and warm thoughs.
So how can I gain her trust? How can I get her to like me again after all this? It's very frustrating to like someone that says that she likes you back, but after the first date it all seems to fall apart, even if aparrently you haven't done anything wrong.
PLEASE HELP!