Hi,
I've been in the relationship with this guy for 8 years now. We met through a friend who thought we were very compatible. WE first started chatting on MSN Messenger for a year, and then decided to meet in person a year later.
Apparently, when we met in person, he decided he wanted to be with me, and we started going out on dates and have been together since (8 years).
We've had many many fights. Mainly because we have very different opinions on many things. I'm somewhat free-spirited, I do things without plans, i'm spontaneous, in a way, I get very impulsive.
He, on the other hand, is very careful. He makes decisions based many steps of ahead, he claims he thinks about the future carefully. He doesn't make decisions impulsively.
8 years later, we've talked about getting married, but the conversation doesn't usually end with any conclusion.
For example:
I say" I'd like to get married so we can start a family"
He says" what, now?"
I say "no, not now, but we need to get engaged first"
and that's the end of the conversation.
I wonder if he's even taking us seriously. Does he think about a future with me? Or is he just stringing me along as long as he can. How can i tell?
He is very good to me, he pays a lot of attention to me. Everytime we're together, he wants to cuddle, when we make a decision on what movie to watch, he asks me first. When we decide on what to eat, he does the same.
I went through a very rough time, and had to go on stress leave from work, was deealing with serious anxiety and panic attacks, and he was there for me 100% of the time. He would research and try to find ways to help me through.
But, I can't help but wonder if we're really meant to be together. If he hasn't already thought about proposing by now, should I move on? He claims I am not showing enough emotions and affections when I'm with him. He wants to make sure I'm serious about him as much as he is with me. So I'm confused.
Is he finding excuses so he doesn't have to talk and deal about this topic?
Is he afraid? How do I know if I should just move on? Or stick around?