A woman I have known for ten years, says she has always held secret affections for me, as I have for her. I am in a second disappointing relationship in those ten years, and she has been through three. When either one of is resistant about telling the other something, or we don't feel it is important, we press the other one for info. That is the sort of unwritten agreement we have had with each other. We have even talked about the fact of my being American, and she is Canadian, in reference to, if by chance we were to get together. If I were to move up there, I would need some sort of permanent residence status. Otherwise, I would get 'deported' back to the U.S. in thirty days. Because, Becoming a citizen of Canada is harder after 9/11.