Op: This guy is not a jerk nor is he an idiot and enabling dialogue like that is not going to teach you a thing.
This guy wanted to have sex with you because he found you attractive. He was pursuing you for sex and he was clear about in what dynamic he wanted to have it in with you.
He gave you zero indication that he loved you and he gave you zero indication that you should "love" him. Love is an action word and he showed you zero actions that he cared past having consensual sex with you but you were too naïve and silly to keep your feelings of infatuation and lust (certainly it was not love) to yourself and you scared him off. Now you feel foolish which is normal considering what you did was foolish. Water under the bridge now so just act normal like you don't give a flying fvck about him or how he feels about you because frankly, with what little interaction you two have had (texting? So What?) you shouldn't give more then that.
Act normal and learn from this so you don't make the same mistakes in your future. Believe a guy when he says he only wants to have you for sex and nothing more.
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BTW: You were NOT played either. Don't keep yourself mired in victimhood by listening to enabling dialogue like that. You won't learn from this is you don't own up to your contribution to all of this. He was upfront about what he wanted and you chose to ignore all that. If anyone played you, you played yourself by failing to view the situation as it was presented to you.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion