Feminist Bullcrap

[bluesummer]

So, I'm getting married in around 2 and a half months, and I've decided to change my last name. Not that it was really much of a 'decision', I fully intended to do it right from the start.

So then for the last year or so, my female friends have been asking me if I'm going to change it. When I say "Yeah, of course," they kind of scrunch up their faces and say "Oh, reallly? You're gonna do that huh. Okay." Then I get the whole tirade about me not being some man's piece of property, and that's so old-fashioned, and why should I give up my identity for 'some man'.

First of all, he is not 'some man'. He's my best friend and the future father of my kids. Secondly, I'm quite secure in myself and my individuality. I could change my name to Princess Leia and it wouldn't change who I am. What is the big freakin' deal?
This is irritating me now.

Am I really so old fashioned? Is everybody else really buying into this whole feminist line of thinking? Gah.

[Mish]

I don't think there's anything wrong with that Blue, and your friends should really show some respect for your personal decisions. The thing I hate the most is when people combine their surnames (especially ones with already combined surnames) and end up being Louise and Mark Smith-Schriber-Lewisham-Perdew-Gabrianni-Schoemaker. It's an abomination!

[Charlie Boy II]

That's nice Blue. I'd be honoured if my wife changed her last name to my last name.

[dewilliams2]

Nothing wrong with it at all. I don't think it has anything to do with giving up an identity as much as it does the symbolizing the union of a new family.

If it bothers you ask your husband to give up his last name and take yours. It happens....Jack White did it when he married Meg White. His original name was John Anthony Gillis.

[penguinamite]

I think it's a personal decision. I know one of my ex's mom who kept her last name to file taxes separately.

Hilariously, all the women and gender studies professors at my school (pretty militant feminists) have changed their last names to their spouses' with the exception of the ones in lesbian relationships. Go figure. Maybe not so much of a feminist issue?

[Alvy]

If you're comfortable with it, more power to you. Wouldn't let your friends opinion sway you.

[IndiReloaded]

I changed my name, Blue, for the sake of a cohesive family. I think its more important if you are having kids. I definitely wouldn't have, if there were no kids. If I had to do it again, I doubt I would have done it today. Its a bigger deal than you think. Consider it carefully.

[vashti]

I don't believe in "feminist bullcrap". It's a slanderous term made up by neoconservatives. Who cares what name you use?

[misombra]

just do what you want to do and tell your friends to go fuk themselves.

[doppelgaenger]

Even if you didn't change your name, you'd still have your father's last name, hahahaha.

[bluesummer]

I just hate the idea that I'm being pegged as some mindless, conservative pussy. I'm very liberal on the whole.

[doppelgaenger]

Yeah, aren't you going to make your future husband go on 'paternal' leave? Haha, my spellchecker doesn't even pick up that word.

I hope by now you've figured out how to make a guy lactate

[Gribble]

"What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet."

[doppelgaenger]

Satire at its best, lol.

[xxazurexx]

So, I'm getting married in around 2 and a half months, and I've decided to change my last name. Not that it was really much of a 'decision', I fully intended to do it right from the start.

So then for the last year or so, my female friends have been asking me if I'm going to change it. When I say "Yeah, of course," they kind of scrunch up their faces and say "Oh, reallly? You're gonna do that huh. Okay." Then I get the whole tirade about me not being some man's piece of property, and that's so old-fashioned, and why should I give up my identity for 'some man'.

First of all, he is not 'some man'. He's my best friend and the future father of my kids. Secondly, I'm quite secure in myself and my individuality. I could change my name to Princess Leia and it wouldn't change who I am. What is the big freakin' deal?
This is irritating me now.

Am I really so old fashioned? Is everybody else really buying into this whole feminist line of thinking? Gah.

I think the UK must be ten years behind you lot and because it's the norm here to take the mans last name and it's never been any different.

Tradition still has a strong hold here.

And I don't buy this feminist bullshit.