Hello everyone. It's been a while since I posted on this board. I'm a 21 year old male college student. I have never been on a date, kissed, nor had a relationship. Throughout grade school and my freshmen year at college women have always told me that I am the worst looking man they have ever saw and treated me as such. This is partly due to an ear deformity I was born with. I have a wide variety of interest in football, basketball, professional wrestling, video games, rock music(I might take a guitar class on campus next year) .
I have offended a lot of women just by starting conversations with them. Most of the time I can easily tell by their body language that they are disgusted because I noticed them. I didn't say anything weird nor disrespectful. They were offended because someone who looks like me had the nerve to speak to them.
I've always been confident when speaking to people, not just women. People are people. Knowing how to talk to women has never been a problem. I try to be a good guy, not a nice guy who kisses ass. I've never been an ass kisser.
I've made many changes in my life to help improve my situation. I must accept some of the blame. I didn't present myself very well until a few years ago. Everything will be explained.
People think that I am funny and easy to talk to. I wasn't very social outside of class during my freshmen year in college. I started to become more social outside of the classroom. l my following year on campus. I got more involved in social activities. My job on campus makes me interact with more students so I'm meeting new women almost everyday. Currently I'm president of an organization on campus.
I'm a slim guy. I work out at the school gym and workout by using weights that I own. I am well groomed. I weighed 150 pounds my freshman year. By the end of my junior year I weighed 175lbs.
My clothing style during high school and my freshman year in college wasn't very attractive. I mostly wore sports apparel. I changed my style during my sophomore year. Women in my age group compliment my clothes, women outside of my age group think that I dress like a dork. I've been told that I only attractive when I wear suits, but that isn't very reasonable. It would be very socially awkward to always wear suits during casual occasions. Some women have said that they don't like that I wear glasses. That cannot change because I am medically unable to wear contacts.
I'm black. I refuse to live my life as a ghetto stereotype, and because of this a lot of black women in my area see me as weak. That lifestyle and culture isn't for me. This seems to turn off a lot of women. A woman told me that I would be attractive if I would act "black" instead of being myself. Personally I prefer white women. I know that puts a sour taste in some people's mouths that I'm not interested in dating black women. I don't care because I like what I like.
As I said earlier I was born with an ear deformity. In a last ditch effort I started having consultations with plastic surgeons. Last year I had my ear deformity corrected that was mostly paid for by my insurance, so yes it is a real deformity because insurance companies would not had paid for it otherwise.
I have standards just like everyone else. I don't need a girl to be a super model to make me happy. I do ask girls to be clean, smart, social, in shape, and to dress well.
Despite improving myself. My situation hasn't gotten any better. Women have told me that I have no sex appeal and little to anything to offer in a relationship. I'm social, smart, funny, caring, dress well, clean, in shape, etc and none of that works for me.