very confused

[sunflower]

Hey all im new to this but thought i would give it a try seems nothing i can
figure out on my own ...Please Help

OK here goes ..I have been dating this guy for about 9 months now and well
in the beginning it was just a see when i see ya thing..then as time rolled
on we began seeing more of each other well anyways...here inlies the problem
"he" has been telling me over and over again these last couple of weeks that
we are just friends and that he cant feel anything because of his past and that
he wont allow himself to ever get attached again...but at the same time he
spends almost every nite here and we eat sleep and everything else just like
a normal couple would , but yet he claims we are just friends hanging
out together....and no there is no one else he is faithful ....i know for sure
we are together to much for him not to be

my questin is how do i handle this i mean he sends so many mixed signals im
not sure if he is fighting his feelings or what .....i mean how do u spend so much quality time with someone and remain emotionally unavailable

[clynn]

As he has gotten closer to you......he is probably getting scared. So he is putting this guard up.

It might be a good idea to distance yourself a bit, see him a little bit less.

Let him know that it is difficult for you to hear him say those things, and act another way.

[DarkDwarf]

As he has gotten closer to you......he is probably getting scared. So he is putting this guard up.

It might be a good idea to distance yourself a bit, see him a little bit less.

Let him know that it is difficult for you to hear him say those things, and act another way.

That is very likely, however we must not forget the "he's an ass" option, where he just wants to sleep with you a couple of times and then "dump" you feeling guilt free...

[clynn]

After 9 months?

I know that isn't forever, but it is longer than the easy lay option

Of course, that still doesn't dismiss the "he's an ass" option.

And yah, protect your heart.