So, I screwed up. I didn't cheat or anything like that, no drugs, nothing too shady, but I just screwed up by not treating my girlfriend the way she deserved to be treated. We were together for a year, and the last couple of months, things got rocky.
She has been going through some hard things at work and at home - family issues and just hates her job, it brings her down and she feels like friends are passing her by.
I should have been the shoulder she could cry on, instead, I added to her problems. I would get short with her and snap at her when she asked simple questions or was being nice. I would take any frustration I experienced elsewhere on her. I could go on, but in short, I wasn't very nice. As we often do with those closest to us, I abused her and thought she would just take it. She gave me warning after warning and got sick of it, and about 10 days ago, decided that was enough.
I can't describe how empty everything is without her. When she broke it off, she was sobbing and wanted to hug, and said if I had just been able to let go of past fights, and relaxed more, she would have totally fallen for me. She didn't want to completely shut it off, and said she needed time and space to sort things out, and wanted me to work on myself. I asked her point blank, a few times, if she was just trying to break it off easy or saw us getting back together, and she told me that the 100% honest truth was that she just doesn't know right now. She doesn't know where life is taking her, she says. She kept saying things like, "If we randomly get back together," or "If it's meant to be..." etc.
I don't really believe in meant to be, I believe we make decisions. I was too stupid to realize she would leave, and now that she has, I can barely function. I want to tell her all the stupid things that happen to me in a day, I want to hold her, I want to kiss her, I want to drive her to work like I used to.
I called her a few days after she broke up with me, and told her I missed her so much, etc. She started to cry again, and said me calling wasn't helping anything. We talked for a bit, but that was it. We had to see each other last weekend to return some things to a store, and a few days before I left her a card filled with my thoughts and feelings, how sorry I was, how much she means to me. I didn't know if she got it, but when we parted on Sunday she thanked me for the card. That was the last I spoke to her, or tried to. She seems to not want to hear from me.
I don't know what to do. I want her so bad. I want to call her every night. I don't know how long to wait before trying to talk to her. Or if I wait for her to come to me. Or if I just move on with my life.