I like a girl, but I'm afraid I don't love her and will be settling.

[Curious89]

24 UK male. I met a girl online and have been dating her (in real life!) for a couple of weeks. On paper she is exactly what I am looking for and she's expressed strong interest in me. Whilst I have enjoyed our dates and like her, I'm afraid I just don't love her. Is it too soon to know if you like/love someone, or will that grow? I find myself thinking about her minor flaws (e.g. small boobs, bad facial pores). Is that me trying to reconcile her flaws as not that important, or am I introducing reasons not to be with her because I'm scared of commitment?

As background, I've already been in this situation twice before and both times I decided to end it. The only time I have ever felt strongly for someone was hideously inappropriate. We were both travelling, she had had a boyfriend for 6 years and came on to me HARD. Every time I gave in and reciprocated she would withdraw and tell me she was just having fun.

[4 ratties]

Double post, but I will respond again.
Just because u don't love her after a couple weeks doesn't mean you never will.
And what's with the "settling" crap already? Can u try to stop judging and labeling and over thinking everything and just enjoy your time with someone? You're going to be alone forever with this judgemental, black and white thinking of yours towards women.

[jnickjohns]

Don't worry about love just yet. Get to know her better, and explore who she is in person. It's really easy for people to make themselves into a different person online. Get to know her for her, flaws and all, and you may fall in love with that.

[jnickjohns]

I'm not a male by the way, just replying to this post.