Is my girlfiend a whore?

[Charlie Boy]

My girlfriend makes constant references to guys chasing her and asking her out. She also often tells me about guy friends who, in the past, have fallen in love with her but she's burned them.

She is young (19) and very attractive so, to me, stuff like that is part of the territory. I don't get jealous. I get annoyed at her because she seems to think she is God's gift to mankind. In fact I think that a lot of girls around her age receive a similar amount of attention. She does not seem to understand this.

Her high opinion of her own beauty is also evident in the bedroom. She is happy to lie back and let me do ALL the work. She thinks that having a good rig is all the work she needs to do. I do not agree.

I organise all our dates. I pay for everything. We don't seem to get on all that well. Our personalities clash. We have little mental or emotional connection.

Apart from all of that we have a lot of physical chemistry and are attracted to each other. We like each other, but we don't like each other - if that makes sense.

I have been thinking of breaking up with her but I don't really want to. What do you girls and guys think I should do?

[Junket]

Start off by not making 2 of the same thread.

I say, give 'er a good screw, then break up with her.

And by "give her a good screw" I mean, get yourself off with the use of her body.

[jurupa]

Dump her. She is a whore, an attention whore. They are never good to have as a partner as it is all about them and never about their partner. Getting rid of her now will you better than keeping her. Ya she is physically attractive, but so are other girls out there that will treat you better.

[Charlie Boy]

I feel like I should at least talk to her these issues before I break up with her. Is there a nice way I could tell her to pull her head in? And that I'm her boyfriend not her sugar daddy so she might want to think about pulling out her wallet occassionally?

[Junket]

Start small, have her buy her own ticket to a movie, or pay for you both at dinner.

[Gribble]

Wait... since when do women pay? Even I, insensitive manwhore that I am, shell out the bucks when a beauty graces me with her presence.

Is this some new trend that I'm not aware of?

[jurupa]

Wait... since when do women pay?

Uh for at least a couple of years now.

Even I, insensitive manwhore that I am, shell out the bucks when a beauty graces me with her presence.

I hope those beauties don't use you when they see that you will pay for everything, because your just opening your self for that.

Is this some new trend that I'm not aware of?[/QUOTE]Yes, but it is not a trend, but a new social culture thing.

[The Great OV!!!]

Wait... since when do women pay? Even I, insensitive manwhore that I am, shell out the bucks when a beauty graces me with her presence.

Is this some new trend that I'm not aware of?

I was thinking the same thing.

I hope those beauties don't use you when they see that you will pay for everything,

I see money for sex as a fair trade...actually I am ripping them off. So as long as they put out ...hell...I'll pay.

[vashti]

The money issues are your fault. You should never pay for more than you are comfortable with because she certainly doesn't need to have you harboring resentments over money. Quit taking her places that cost a lot of money, and if she asks why, then tell her you can't afford it. For the record, I have never paid for dates, but I have always been happy doing inexpensive things, and I think it is important the paying party knows they are appreciated.

As for the sex issues, most 19 year olds don't know what they are doing. People are not BORN experienced in bed. You have to figure out how to inspire her to be more creative. Maybe you could rent one of those porn for women movies and then tell her you'd like to try something you see.

Her telling you about other guys who find her attractive is probably just a way to get a reaction out of you while boosting her own ego a bit. Everyone likes to feel attractive to the opposite sex. She may just want to know that you find her attractive, and that you CARE that other men do, too.

Do you care? If you don't, then break it off with her.

[The Great OV!!!]

She is young (19) and very attractive so,

I think we are going to need proof of that orc boy.

[Charlie Boy]

Look, I'm happy to pay for the first couple of dates and when I take her out to dinner and that sort of thing. But she's been my girlfriend for a good two months now and is yet to pay for a single thing. Anything from snacks when we go to the beach, to movies, to drinks when we hit the town or when we go to get coffee - I pay for all of it. On top of that we go out to dinner at least once a week where the combined bill can be up to $200 (we go to nice places, that's Australian dollars by the way).

I'm only 24 myself, I'm not on an enormous salary and I'm trying to save up for a trip oversees.

Anyway, her not paying for things isn't the main issue. It's just sympotmatic of her general attitude.

[Charlie Boy]

The money issues are your fault. You should never pay for more than you are comfortable with because she certainly doesn't need to have you harboring resentments over money. Quit taking her places that cost a lot of money, and if she asks why, then tell her you can't afford it. For the record, I have never paid for dates, but I have always been happy doing inexpensive things, and I think it is important the paying party knows they are appreciated.

As for the sex issues, most 19 year olds don't know what they are doing. People are not BORN experienced in bed. You have to figure out how to inspire her to be more creative. Maybe you could rent one of those porn for women movies and then tell her you'd like to try something you see.

Her telling you about other guys who find her attractive is probably just a way to get a reaction out of you while boosting her own ego a bit. Everyone likes to feel attractive to the opposite sex. She may just want to know that you find her attractive, and that you CARE that other men do, too.

Do you care? If you don't, then break it off with her.

Alright I'll cop that about the money thing. But in my experience most girls at least pull out their wallet at the end of a dinner and make a pretence of trying to pay. Then I can feel like a big man when I pull out my credit card and wave them away. Everyone wins. She barely even says thankyou.

I don't know that she doesn't know what she's doing in the bedroom.... it's possible I suppose but she doesn't act nervous and she's not body-shy or anything like that. I honestly think she considers that I'm so priviliged to be sleeping with her she really shouldn't have to do anything.

I find it annoying that she's got guys buzzing around her but what can I do? I deliberately don't react because jealousy is unnattractive and anyway I'm not a jealous guy, if she wanted to be with them she would be. Like I said, it comes with the territory. As long as she's loyal I'm not going to lose any sleep over it.

Also, I never compliment her on the way she looks because I think that will just be pouring petrol on the bushfire that is her ego.

I know I sound like an asshole, i don't care. This cockiness isn't some front she puts own to mask her insecurities, like I predict some of you might claim. It's for real.

[Kbot]

I really think you should dump her
you are being really disrespectful about her
she thinks she can have any guy that she wants possibly because she can!
you are clearly resentful of her and still don't want to break up with her
she's 19 give her a break
as for being rude about her in bed, an adolescent is often very insecure and you may be reading her wrong
you don't seem to be the most sensitive of fellows
as for 'all the work' well.....like with all your other complaints you only have yourself to blame
don't pay if you don't want to
don't have sex if you view it as work (doesn't sound like much fun for either of you)

[vashti]

I have yet to meet a 19 year old who doesn't harbor SOME insecurity about their body or level of skill when it comes to sex.

Anyway, you sound like you are looking for permission to break up with her, so here it is: I don't think you like her enough to keep her around.

[Gigabitch]

Charlie, if she was REALLY convinced of the fact that she is desirable and beautiful, she wouldn't have to tell you about it all the time. She sounds insecure to me, and you don't help this at all by refusing to compliment her. One day soon, she's going to ditch YOU, simply because she's afraid you'll ditch her first.

And yes, boys pay. Perceived value determines market rates, and you have to pay to sleep with beautiful women, one way or another. Yes, you could demand that she not treat you like an ATM and pay her own way. Good luck with that.

She is high-maintenance. You need to decide if she's worth it or not, and if she isn't, quit wasting your time (and hers).