Ok ladies, a little ranting, but I could really use some advice.
TIme and again I have had girls reject me for total dbs. I'm talking uneducated, unskilled manipulating manwhores who only care about themselves. I think I get it - rebel, NSA, bad boy thing. That, in itself, might be understandable. But, the problem is these girls eventually get dissed by these guys to a point they get hurt and then they come running to me because they know I'ma good guy. It's not just as a friend, they want a safe, respectful, caring relationship. Usually by this point, they have really dissed me in the past, mostly just from the excitement of the being with the bad body, and done things with these guys that make their own character and trustworthyness questionable in general. So, I have no choice but to tell them no. Then they get mad at me for rejetcting them. So, it is a lose, lose situation except for the bad boy who simply moves on to the next.
I'm not a loser. I'm not clingy, needy or a doormat. I'm fairly interesting, funny, caring, bla, bla bla I am may or may not be looking for a LTR, depends on the girl. But why has almost every girl I know done this? First, these girls were not tricked or made mistakes. Their eyes were wide open and they fully knew the reputation of these guys as well as my own. They had to know they would be used. Then, why do they feel it is my fault when I won't be there to pick up the pieces? I love being a friend and helping others with problems, but it seems these girls simply care only about themselves to a very egocentric degree were I feel it is in nobody's best interest to help. I don't like this.
Are there girls that aren't like this and don't live in a semenary? What is wrong with a good guy first time around? What can I do to short-circuit this process and make it db free? Some have told me to act like to db, womanizer first to attract women and then be the nice guy. But why do I have to act like a db to get the girl? Why can't I just be me?