Am i a Jerk?

[jazzoz]

Hi guys.. The other day i was at this party and one of my female friends was there as well. People got a bit drunk and so did we, suddenly one thing went to another and we ended having sex that night: But the problem is that she 3 months ago parted with her old boyfriend (it was him who said they should stop dating) and i know him quite well since i go in the same class as him. Therefore i'm feeling quite guilty and actually feels like a bit of a jerk.... I'm considering to tell him what has happened but i'm not sure...

Am i a jerk? or is it okay what i have done?

[VincenzoG91]

You can't be a jerk, you have a conscience and way too much self-awareness.

[jazzoz]

Thx a lot! i'm really glad to hear that
but i'm still wondering whether or not i should tell him.. do you think i should?

[BackUpOrGetStng]

No need to go tell him, he might think you're rubbing it in his face. Just tell him what's up if he asks.

[DarkHelmet82]

you slept with a single girl? how is that being a jerk?

[smackie9]

Tell him F uck all. It's none of his business because well they are not dating anymore so really who gives a rats ass....congratz on getting laid!

[Mathias]

Thx a lot! i'm really glad to hear that
but i'm still wondering whether or not i should tell him.. do you think i should?

Not a chance.

[jazzoz]

Thanks a lot for the replies - they are very helpful

[bigdaddy863]

he broke up with her so there is no reason to fallow the book jst make out with her in front of him if hes a gd friend he wont care cause ur happy

[Riku]

You "know" him and have classes with him...is he even a friend or you just know him? If he's not a good friend it's none of his business.

[surfhb]

Yeah.... I think it's important to ask if he's your friend. If he was a good pal, you're the biggest A hole on the planet. Any man who bangs his friends ex , on the rebound, should be drawn and quatered.

[devonbrown]

If he is a good friend AND still has feelings for her, you probably want to tell him. But from the way you told the story, it sounds like he is past things with her and shouldn't care what she does. You aren't dating him, so there really is no need to tell him.

[smackie9]

OMG you guys just get over it. The ex is not property to anyone, they can f uck anyone they want. Whoever has sex with an ex is nobodys business! They are not dating anymore so the girl is free game to anyone, best friend or not.

[surfer808]

I disagree. Friends are harder to come by than a women especially a lay. I would however not tell the friend if it would hurt him (more damage than good). There are so many fish in the sea, why bang your friends x? Its not an ownership thing. Its a classless act. I'd never sleep with any of my friends x's. Anyone elses x is fair game

[VincenzoG91]

If this was a one-night stand, who cares?

And if this guy is just an acquaintance of yours, who cares?

This is no big deal unless this guy is your friend and if you also get seriously involved with his ex.