I know this is a pretty common problem. I love her and I don't expect her to like, or spend time with my friends or family. I'm just not sure how to handle the situation...
The only person in my life that my fianc�e really likes is my Dad, but now he's about to get married to a woman that neither of us really care for and now he is basically getting lumped in with everyone else since to visit him we have to visit her too. And it's not like my Dad's fianc�e or any of my family and friends are rude or anything - they all want to see her and get to know her. Other than my Mother and soon to be step-mother being generally annoying, no one has been anything but friendly. Unfortunately she has social anxiety and doesn't know how to handle big loud rowdy crowds.
My Dad and I have always celebrated our holidays either with another large family that we are very good friends with (a rowdy group), or our own family who can be a bit boring and dry (but always friendly!). My fianc�e does not want to be a part of these holidays with us, and whenever I visit anyone, she usually stays at home. I have to come up with an excuse which is usually something like "Oh she got stuck on a double shift", because I can't think of a way to tell them that she doesn't ever want to see them.
I can't very well tell them "she doesn't like coming to see you guys", and when we have tried to visit, it has made her really uncomfortable, to the point of tears. It seems odd because we are recent members of a swingers club and routinely enjoy each others company while others watch - something you would think she would be very uncomfortable with.