Originally Posted by
pepper
so there was this guy who told me that he is only physically attracted to women who he has talked to and finds intelligent and witty. I told him that it is more than a physical attraction if you like the person's personality. He responded with it is still physical because maybe that person is right for him. As soon as personality plays a role in attraction isn't it no longer just physical?
I've certainly found a good-looking man less attractive the moment he speaks. You can't imagine the converse? Developing physical attraction for a wo/man b/c of their other qualities? Read the threads here about friends who end up dating--they start just like this.
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