Hi everyone!
Long story short:
After a one year smooth relationship (in which I gave my heart and soul), my boyfriend called it quit because I had 'the talk' with him on commitment. Wow!
His excuse on the spot was that he needed to sort things out, he didn't knew what he wanted for his life. Hum..
After a pretty emotional break up, he asked for us to stay friends and I said yes.
Eventhough I accepted the friendship request, I went NC from day one after the break up.
I really had no interest in talking with him or seeing him. I just needed to heal and get rational.
He called me after a week, asking if I was ok and wanting to some chatting. I said I was ok and had a really short talk with him. I didn't felt like going through my feelings and thoughts with him at all. He told me he was missing me.. sometimes.
He called again after a week and suggested that we hang out together, on 'friendly' terms. His way of saying it drove me crazy.. ''let's just hang out since we are friends!'' My gut feeling was telling me that he wanted a little ego boost and possibly a friends with benefits thing. I told him I was not ready to meet him up yet 'on friendly terms'. He told me, 'ok, I respect that'. On the spot, I thought it was pretty unsensitive to bring the idea of a friendly meeting right away.
A week later, he called again. I couldn't talk long because I was working so he tried to call me back twice during this week-end. He got my answering machine and I never called back.
Then, a week after that - he calls out of nowhere, around 11 p.m. and start asking me questions again to check out if 'I was ok' and if I was angry at him. He started thanking me for some things I did for him while being in the relationship and... he ask me if I want him to come get his stuff at my place (some unimportant stuff like tshirts, cds and socks..), I said yes but I replied.. 'now'? ''Yes'' he said. He wanted to come pick his things at 11 p.m. at my place? What? Anyway, I turned him down and told him to come during the week-end.
I also told him that I didn't want to remain friends with him even though I've previously accepted his friendship when we broke up. He seemed pretty disappointed and asked if we could be friends in the future.. I said I didn't know.
What do you think of this situation? Is it better for me to pull out completely? Thanks!