Heart Flame, Im glad you've found some joy in your life.
I realise that you are living apart from your wife, but you are calling yourself 'married' instead of 'separated'. It's leads me to believe that you still have some type of emotional ties with your wife. But even if I'm wrong, I think it's only fair to any girl that you get this marriage thing sorted out before perusing her. Even if you're mid-divorce, it's better than being still married.
I'm also concerned that you're getting your joy in life from someone other than yourself. Frankly, you'd be in a better emotional place for dating if you are able to find joy without a partner - and let your partner add to what is already a good life.
Lastly...and still related to her being your source of joy.....what happens if/when she moves on from you? I mean, you're not a teen anymore and you know that most relationships don't last. Will you crumble back down into the depths of depression without her? I think it's very likely. And you must remember that this wont only be a problem for you. Most of us who are dating someone who will suffer terribly if we leave stay longer than we want. There's an element of pity or guilt which prevents us from ending things when the time is right. It's not fair to put this on her.
Anyway, lots of blathering from me. But to sum it up, get a divorce and get your life balanced and happy again. Do counselling if you need help. Then you'll be truly ready to get out there and date again.
Last edited by basilandthyme; 21-03-13 at 05:29 PM.
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Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.