I'm at my wit's end... my ex contacts me as soon as I dust myself off and start dating again. Why does he do this? It's very confusing and painful because I love him.
We met online and there was a mutual attraction right from the first date. We deleted our dating profiles and went exclusive within days of meeting face to face. We were in a relationship with each other on Facebook right away as well. I'd never clicked liked this before with anyone, so quickly and completely.
Within 2 weeks of daily contact (mostly in person), we were both saying, "I love you" and got physical. He lead me every step of the way, like a gentleman... I just couldn't resist any longer.
Everything was perfect for the first month and then he started backing off to the point where I didn't hear from him for an entire week by 2 months in. I could not reach him! I found out he had been having an LDR (of 2 years) with an older woman, and she was at his place that week he disappeared. =(
I dusted myself off... and he contacted me within days. I was distant and purely platonic. A few weeks went by, and I went on a few dates... and he contacts me again, this time teasing me that I shouldn't be dating???
By then, I was missing him because the dates I had weren't comparable with our chemistry. All I could think about at this point were his kisses. I made the mistake of telling him and he came over... picking up basically where we had left off.
I confronted him about the LDR, and how he just disappeared on me... and he apologized, and agreed to not do that again. Things were great again for another month until suddenly he disappeared again!!
I sent him an email basically saying that he had until the end of the week to get in touch with me or I'd assume he was gone for good this time. He made contact but only casually, as if he we were FWB... which I am not into! These casual contacts continued for a few weeks and petered out to nothing again.
Last weekend I decided to register for online dating, and have a date set for tomorrow... and I received an email from him tonight. I should have deleted it immediately, but I replied as a friend, yet again. How the hell can I still love someone who is obviously playing games with me?
It's obvious that I need to decide to go NC and stick with it, but I have unresolved feelings for him. What should I do? He is just playing, right? Have any of you men had a problem letting a girl move on, even though you weren't willing to stay exclusive??