Ok. So, I've been thinking alot lately (haha, hence the name, no jokes please) about the whole breaking up, no contact, moving on, bla bla all that jazz... and have read countless posts about the subject... What I am wondering is about the whole getting back together with an ex thing... why is this so appealing to us? Is it just that we have built a sense of "home" with that person that we feel separated and cut off from? Like a part of ourselves that we left with the relationship? Is it just the comfort and friendship we have nourished with them that we somehow feel incomplete without and would rather have that back than try to initiate a new relationship and go through all the bends and twists that comes with that? What if we were perfectly happy in the old relationship and overnight the rug got pulled from under us, and we feel we have either unfinished business there, never got the chance to say goodbye, or what? My head has been going in circles about this, especially lately, dunno why...
On another note, does anyone have personal stories about this? Getting back together, how long was the first round, the separation, then the reuniting? I know a close family friend who was married for half a dozen years or so, wife walked out on him, then 2 years later they got back together, and I would have never known if I wasn't told; to this day they are very natural in their relationship, and one can sense absolutely nothing less than a happy couple... but how common is this? And, other than reasons involving abuse and pain and overall discontent, why would we NOT try to get back something we had that was so right? (though it may not have been the right time...) I'm saying, if we had it good, but it just went bad, should we shun away from trying to rekindle that lost relationship, or is it always protocol to avoid and purge ourselves of that... Is it just that we are so hell-bent on not making the same mistake twice that we put up our steel reinforced walls and send out battalions against any sign of this person we once deeply cared for? Another thing, how exactly does it work? I could not imagine going on a first date in over a year with someone you broke up with long ago... all the awkwardness and just tight-rope walking... eeeeeee...
I guess I am just asking for other peoples' thoughts on the matter; any stories, experiences, ideas, opinions, etc. would be much appreciated I feel like I am exhausting the parameters of my mind on this... going in circles and not coming to any definitive conclusions about anything... So, comment away