Hello, I am a first time poster on this forum. I am having trouble with this rather odd thing that happened to me last week.
I have a friend who I will call Jane, she and I met at some point but it is primarily an online relationship. We both work/worked for the same subbing operations as multi-district substitute teachers, we would have gripe sessions about the things we encountered as subs. One day last week, out of the blue, she asked me if I wanted to meet her friend who I will call Frank. We had NEVER talked about dating, love, men, etc. in the past (she's married btw), never once had I lamented about things in that department to her. Her friend Frank asked her if she knew any single women because he was looking to go to a concert next month with someone, and she pointed him my way. We friended each other on Facebook, got to chatting a bit, and then met last Saturday night for dinner. He was nice, I was feeling very positive about it until the last 5 minutes. I have many rules and regulations for these things, comes from many years of experiences good and bad. In the First 5 if there is any hostility or strange behaviors, this will not be a good encounter. The Last 5, however, is the most important - watch the behaviors. If he does not walk you all the way to your car, he is not interested in you. If he does and he ends it well then there is some potential. And he ended it badly with a good-bye, not a handshake or a hug, he just said good night. This was bad, he was telling me by this that he is socially awkward and does not have the best basic people skills. And sure enough, he sent a text about two hours later saying he had a good time, which is also a bad sign. You may be thinking "Huh? Why is that bad?" but I it is. Texting is a passive way of communication not a direct one. I knew how this would end up - I replied that I also had a good time, thanks. The next day we continued texting about chit chatty things, then it tapered off. On Tuesday I sent him a text saying good morning, nothing. Once it got to be Thursday, I gave up because he broke the 48 Hour Rule - if you have not heard from him within 48 hours the trail has gone cold. Nothing from him since.
Here's where it gets strange ... My friend Jane sent an IM on Sunday asking how things went. I said I had a very good time, she said he's a good guy and I agreed. And then sometime on Monday or Tuesday, she blocked me on Facebook. That was hurtful, I cared for her as my friend even though the relationship was not the deepest. Him I could really care less about, he was just another dude. I think what may have happened was that they conferenced over the meeting, he told her that he was not interested, and then she decided that she would block me to avoid dramatics. I would not have taken this out on her by any means, it wasn't her fault that things did not happen, but I also realize she and I didn't know each other well enough to know if that was the case with me.
I'm sad that I lost a friend over this, but then again she was not a good friend to begin with, right? I blocked him to avoid further dramatics on his end and erased his number from my phone.