Originally Posted by
baxter
First post ever:
From the beginning of our relationship she made it very clear that she would always want to remain friends with an ex boyfriend of some 4 years previous. They only were boyfriend girlfriend and sexually active together for a short time but became good friends after that.
There is contact most days via msn, facebook, txt, phone and they see each other about once a week for and hour or two.
on a lot of occasions my wife insists they meet alone out and about or at his house. My wife has always disliked this chap’s wife in the first instance and now his new girlfriend now he is divorcing.
He is a known womaniser and has indulged in lying to different partners in the past, hence divorcing etc.
As an example I just found out she is taking him to the theatre and when I asked why I was not invited she got in a huff and said that she was going to go away to Amsterdam and Geneva with him and I would have to put up with that and trust her.
I do trust her but I worry about him.
When she gets mad at me if I raise any problem about him she gets vile and refers to ****ing him
Just go back and read some of the stuff you wrote. So clear that this guy is more important to her than you. Stand up for yourself and set her straight. If she won't listen, get the **** out.
-to be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.- e.e.cummings