I am begining to get serious with a women i have been dating for 4 months. At this point we spend almost everyday together, we are planning vacations, loving on one another, enjoying each others company, and have completley fallen for one another. She and I both think we are each others soul mates. Our lives fit like hand and glove. there is really not much that doesnt work well for us.
However there are some concerns I have. I was married for 14 years, I left last november, I made the decision to leave and my relationship had really been over for years. I know for a fact I am in no way emotional attached to my ex.
The girl that I am currently dating layed out a story that went something like this, she was married to her kids dad (her highschool sweetheart for 6 years) divorced him (he cheated) and meet Guy #2 some 6 months later and they were together 7 years. She told me in June when we had met that they had been over for about a year. She also told me that he had a daughther that she practically raised that she hadnt seen since, that they got married in vegas and decided immediatly it was a mistake and annuled it before they even left, she told me that she had been living with a friend of hers and was going to be moving soon.
fast forward to august through a series of events (namely people around her that i was meeting letting things slip out and facebook) I learned that she wasnt very forward with her story. I learned that she was staying in the house that they co-habitated (he was supposedly not residing there during this time and the friend moved in to help her with bills), that his daughter was living with her in that house until august, that her annulment was never filed (she says she has paperwork that it was), and looking through facebook post it is easy to see that her relationship ended most likely around late april - early may.
Now I have made peace with most of this, I realize her motivation was to put distance between the begining of us and the end of them, The one thing that I still struggle with is that her relationship possibly ended only 6 to 8 weeks before ours began (she insist that they knew they were ending before last thanksgiving), by her account it was him that wanted out, but she says that somewhere in that a "switch flipped" and she was done. I just wonder if It did end only 6 to 8 weeks before me, if she could truly be over him.
I DO NOT doubt this girl has serious affections for me. but i do wonder if she can be ready for a serious relationship already, I mean she did just move out of a home they shared for 5 years 2 1/2 months ago. Things are going well, but I am not trying to be a rebound either for a girl who has emotional baggage she has yet to deal with.
When I tell her my concerns, she insist that there is nothing there, not even hate. She doesnt talk to him and wants nothing to do with him.
any feedback is appreciated