Hi all,
you can see all the threads regardig my troubles here search for loveramix threads, i cannot find them myself lol)
Summary: 1 year anniversary as a couple, but long-distance(we met offline before). I know her since 2007, and we were together since the beginning of 2009, because obviously we shared a lot of stuff together, and she's a great person, and will always be in my eyes. We spent 1 day out of 5 together in average during the year we were together.(she lives in Greece, i in Switzerland). For me she was THE ONE.Not because i had a sudden crush, but because there was some things in her which made me feel like she was perfect for me(Her behaviour, culture, sense of humor, the maaaaaany hours we spent talking together etc).
So : after spending 1 year together, seeing each other about 1x every 2 months, suddenly, as i told her i was definitely coming to live in greece, i get dumped.
Of course, i thought she was afraid of me coming there, for various reasons i cannot tell here.
Nope: she just met by chance her lover from 25 years ago, when she was still a virgin(so they were just playing the doctor), and it was the huuuuge crush just when they met, and so she dumped me.
I broke the NC rule. We are like best friends, and no matter what, she will be a huge part of my life, and i think it's the same for her.
THing is : Her new "Bf" has been in a relationship for 6 years, and he's the stepdad of the children of his current GF. Moreover they have no relationship with their father, so he took his place.
So basically he doesn't want to dump his girlfriend because it would break the relation between him and her children, so everytime he meets with my ex, they are crying because of all the people they are going to make suffer.
If you followed me, i'm the lucky one, because my suffering is over, although i still love her, because of all the qualities she has, because of the amazing person she is, so in short the door is still open for me. She told me on the phone it was impossible to go back to what the situation was before, even if they were going to make pple suffer for falling in love again.
So ladies : what do you think : when they meet, they cry because of the suffering their relationship will have for consequences. They could never spend more than 5 hours in a row together, because he's hiding from his current GF his relation with my ex.
They are crazy about each other, but it makes them suffer, and even if i told her that they would have better to come back to what it was before it's impossible for them.
What do you think will happen? do i still stand a chance(I've never met someone like her, and i'm ready to forgive, even though the suffering part is over for me)? Actually now i'm acting(not acting, i'm sincere) like the guy who tries to give them advice(because they REALLY need some). I don't care that much about being with her again(of course, i would give everything i have to be with her again if i could be 100% sure it would be for life, but i mention again : I'm out of the suffering part, except the mornings when i wake up and dream about her...this is really harsh, but the rest is a piece of cake)
QUestion is : Do you think i still have a chance, that they will come back to their senses(they are both 42), stop behaving like children and act in a responsible manner.
The thing that worries me the most : she has a child(8) and even if it's not the hugest risk, she wants kids from this guy, and i'm afraid of the worse happening. of course i don't think she risks a lot, but to be sure to want to have kids, she has to wait, the more she waits, the more it's dangerous, the more it's dangerous the more her son risks to lose his mom.
Am i paranoid about her getting a pregnancy at 42-44? (the "do i still stand a chance" question : i don't give a **** if she's happy and manages to do all she wants.)
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