Hi guys, I want your honest opinion, please.
I'm with my boyfriend for about 4 years. We are good friends and a happy couple for the most part except that he just can't have sex with me unless he's drunk. (He's ok with orals tho). I hated this and tried to discuss on many occasions resulting in his utter refusal of admitting the fact or insisting that he just loves orals that much.
He's working in China since early spring this year, I went to visit him for about 2 months this summer where I found out the true reason; He always had 3somes in his past relationships and is having a hard time to get used to having only me.
I was shocked and upset twice - for the very fact as well as that he didn't tell me for a loooooooong time while I've trusted him and sacrificed my sexual life... He snapped at me when I first tried to discuss this and refused to talk. Later he explained that he froze and didn't know how to talk but wish to work on it with me.
I know that he truly loves me and would like to believe and support him. But I am also tired of sexually frustrated and not sure how much longer I could be patient (after all, he had all 4 yrs to work on it and never did overcome). I am ok with 3somes only if it's meant for just fun and recreational....not in a serious relationship. since I care about him, I don't want it with us.
Although he said that he could enjoy intimacy with me without threesomes, his actions tell me otherwise. I just can not wipe this doubt that one any man got used to 3somes in a relationship, he can never go back.
In reality, can he really ever become to able to enjoy my company only? Does human mind actually work that way?
I want guys perspectives.....honest ones. Please help!