I've been dating my boyfriend for about 8 or 9 months now, and he's amazing. I am completely, head over heels in love with him. I can't get enough time with him, and I am totally emotionally fulfilled by him... but sexually, it's a different story.
We have fallen into the same basic, four-point lovemaking routine: I go down on him, then we always do it in the same normal 2 or 3 positions. He NEVER goes down on me, NEVER fingers me, and I'm completely left out of the foreplay. It's incredibly frustrating because I know he's totally satisfied with the sex, and I'm not.
I brought this up to him a week or two ago and we discussed it in detail. He explained to me that foreplay wasn't really his "thing," but if it meant that much to me, he would make an effort to include me more. He fingered me briefly that one night, and that was it... and since that one time, things have gone back to the exact same thing they always were. Again, no foreplay for me whatsoever. I've even tried guiding his hand down there, and he just jerks it straight back up. I should also mention I'm very hygienic and usually shower twice a day, and I also shave daily as well.
I explained to him when we first started dating that I am very sexually adventurous, and he said that was fine, but he is not satisfying me at all and it's really becoming a problem. I am 21 and he's a few years older than me, so I figured he was more experienced and would be open to more things. Part of me wants to stop touching him and going down on him, just to give him a taste of his own medicine, but that seems immature and I think it may just make things worse.
Again, FANTASTIC relationship in every other aspect. I don't want this to be a deal breaker but it's really becoming an issue. Any advice?