Alright, some of you know that I've posted here before about my ex breaking up with me about a month ago because he's moving to Colorado... in March. We started No Contact about 2.5 weeks ago. It's been hard but I've been diligent about not contacting him, even when I've wanted to... BADLY.
The ONE slip-up I had was when I was scrolling through his Instagram pictures, and accidentally "double-tapped" a picture of his, which in consequence possibly sent him a notification that I "liked" one of his pictures before I "un-liked" it. Oops. Why am I telling you this? Because, that slip-up wouldn't have happened if I didn't have this sad, pathetic obsession of "checking up" on him via social media.
Seriously, I know I have a problem. It has become an obsession to read his Twitter, FB and Instagram feeds more than twice daily. The worst part is that I've taken the time to block him on everything, but I cave so badly that I use OTHER accounts (via work, friends, etc) to pretty much cyber-stalk him.
I've recognized that this is a problem, and that I pretty much gave up my sanity in this breakup. BUT, I am ready to fix it and move on. I NEED to. I'm realizing that doing this does NOTHING but hurt me. All I've seen by doing this is that he's going out, having fun, and is already talking to a new woman. It's not like he's posting anything about me or saying "I love her, I miss her so much. I'm an idiot and need to get her back."
So, now that I recognize I have a problem and have the desire to change it, can I please ask for any advice from y'all? Can you give me any tips or suggestions for when my curiosity starts to get the better of me and I want to cave? I just flew to California today (away from him), and will be here for 25 days. My goal is to TRY my hardest to not keep tabs on him the WHOLE time I'm here. But, as well as I'm doing today, I know with the upcoming holidays, new years, and my birthday, it's going to be easier said than done. I can't just get rid of my computer or go "internet free" for this whole time, as I am working online, from home, while I'm here in CA.
Any and all suggestions to not succumb to weak, nostalgic feelings and cave from my goal would be GREATLY appreciated! I keep wondering what he's doing and if maybe he's posted a new picture, but I need to somehow learn how NOT to care about it. Please send your help!