To start out, I had really good male friends who weren't as open with me but always had my back and were true friends. Later on, I found out they lived two lives[Yeah, they loved me to death] . One normal, the other not nice. They always were good to me and I thought we knew each other well; but, I found out they had side lives that I did not know about. I always thought honesty was key to a good relationship but I don't know now. Am I setting myself up for something bad, if I am honest with a man but he is not as open as I am. Since, I have had this before I know sign they have another life, that is a hidden life [because I would not like it]. I don't know. I have a guy in my life and he is my friend to me[He always tries to push the boundaries]. Him and I talk very frequently... He acts like I am his friend on this side but I am in the dark on the other...somethings strange about it all to me. I have a desire to say it is weird but just can't because I don't even know anything his other side. I have been taught to remain quiet on issues like this. So I wondering if he is just utilizing his right to privacy or is he in a lifestyle that is unsuited for me. If a man is too private, is there something going on? I have never been comfortable with all the secretive ways of men. He always says I would know more if I am in a relationship with him, but I just do not see how that's possible.
I am just feeling like, "Am I at risk if this is suppose to be my good friend but they have a life under the covers. And I am more open... "
I need understanding all of this. Is this normal? And why is he behaving this way?