Hi all
I've been with my gf for approx. 3yrs now. 2 of which was handled via long distance, this is due to me being at university right now. We've held it together during that time pretty ok. We've had many fallouts, ups and downs, all of which seemed pretty normal for any relationship. We really do love each other, and this has been displayed in almost everything we've done for each other.
About 4 weeks ago, we were talking, and we had an argument. I don't clearly remember the details about the argument, but it had to do with her attitude as relates to me, when i'm trying to be there for her. She can be a total bitch, and very unappreciative, especially when anyone is trying to show her love and care. Anyways, I ended up telling her that I really love her, but she has to stop that attitude and then i told her goodnight. Shortly after she sent me this message:
"i'm not into this relationship the way i used to be anymore... and i don't think that it is fair to waste ure time and my time by tryin to force what is no longer there... i won't be coming to visit you because i don't see that as the best move to make... i would apologize to ure parents if u wish...i no longer wish to continue in this relationship as of now... it is not that i don't love u.... i do and we would probably be perfect for each other in a different time but right now its not right... and it just doesnt fit anymore.... i love u and i hope that someday after all this we can be friends."
Now to me, this doesn't fit, because 2wks before this, she got her own place, and all she could talk about is how much funny we'd have when i come visit in the summer. Also, in the past, i've always been the one keeping this together in terms of motivating her to push on with the relationship. But when I returned to School after my december visit, I was the one that needed the motivating. She was always there reminding me of why we're doing this.
Added to this, she came and visited me for 2wks (she left friday). She's still saying that she wants to break, but I don't know. What she's saying, and what she's doing doesn't match. What makes things even more funny, is the fact that we slept together while she was here, we went out and did everything couples did. She has been doing many things subconsciously, that lets me know that this can't be real. The greatest thing she did that told me that this isn't making sense is while working at my laptop near the bed, she, during her sleep, came over and put her arms around me. She was sleeping the whole time....
So I dunno. When I confronted her about it again while she was here, she said she didn't feel appreciated. That for itself didn't make any sense to me. Without even giving my point of view, people who don't even know me, but has seen us together etc, has come to her and told her "that boy really loves and appreciates you." That has happened on numerous occasions. Added to that, i'm always doing something nice. It may not be something extravagant, but it still shows that I Love You.
Anyways guys...I think i've typed alot already...time to hear what you think...