ok, so long story short...
I hurt my current girlfriend by going back to my ex wife two years ago. While I thought she was over the issue it seems there were some harboring feelings. additionally, I was less than focused on our relationship at times and did not give her the impression that I wanted to get married so she got angry and said she wanted a break. Well little did I know that during the break she started seeing another guy and quickly told him she loved him. (they have been friend for a while).
After a couple of months of us going back and forth and me thinking we were working on things she finally told me that she wanted to be with me because she knew she still loved me and it was the right path for her. Her mom, sister and best friend have all told me that she loves me and wants this. She still has stong feelings for the other guy and is having a hard time letting go due to guilt and I am sure some love is still present.
Her concern is that while we are working on our relationship, she is scared that the "emotional connection" that we once had will not come back.
I have told her it will once she is finally able to completely let go of her interim "friend". I know it can because is did for me previously when I lost that "connection" with her.
I realize this all seems quite complicated but we do have reasons to continue on and I do believe it is whats she wants or she would not be here with me know. we are undergoing relationship counseling.
So my question is...
What is everyone's experience with regaining the fire that once was so strong but has been lost due to anger and someone else in the picture?
we have 5 kids between us which is also one of our reasons for fighting for this.