Why does she still have so much hate for me?

[anteup290]

We were together for 2 years, broke up, remained friends for 6 months and I still had feelings and didn't like the friend zone so I walked out on her. I know she hates me for doing what I did as a friend.

It's been a year since then, and the only contact I've had with her was during Christmas 2010, when I wrote her an apology letter for walking out on her and being immature about my feelings (jealousy etc.) Then a few weeks ago it was her birthday, I texted her Happy Birthday and she responded "Thanks!" She has a new boyfriend now, and I'm happy for her.

Fast forward to last night, I went out with my boys bar hopping. GUESS WHO I run into in one of the bars? My wonderful ex and her friends. We both saw each other through the crowd, I was going to say hi but she walked up to a group of guys so I just walked away.

So later that night I run into a group of her friends and I say hi for old times' sake, next thing I know my ex walks up to me and says HEY! I say hi. She then continues to go off on me for saying hi to her friends and not her, and asking me why I'm talking to her friends. I apologized and tried to give her a hug, she shoves me away so I just walk away.

At the end of the night in the parking lot I'm walking to my car with my friends and shes on the other side of the lot. She begins to yell a bunch of different things and cussed me out.

I still love her and care about her, but the way she acted towards me almost broke my heart all over again. I know she was intoxicated, but why does she still have so much animosity towards me? Should I do anything about it? text her see if she wants to talk?

Thanks for reading and thanks for your opinion!

[Miss_winter]

what was the cause of your breakup?

[workingman78]

The fact is some people can't find closure without hating someone else for it. I have my own experience to draw upon concerning this. The sad part is that it does hurt, just because something doesn't work out, doesn't mean that feelings don't stay involved in some form.

[Mathias]

Seems to me like you're the lucky one here. Who would want to deal with that?

[Dune]

I actually don't understand the need to sort things out at your particular point of things. I mean, you pretty much didn't do anything "wrong." So I don't see why you have to feel responsible for her hate towards you. It's probably just her way of dealing with it I guess. Plus, she's probably intoxicated so she ain't thinking straight. With time, her anger will die down. If it doesn't, hey, you're not carrying that burden, she is!