Hi. So the title says it all. I'm in love with a married woman and I don't know what to do.
I've knew this girl in college. We worked and hung out together around 15 years ago. There was always an intense attraction to each other and we did "hook up" a few times (no sex). She liked me alot and wanted a relationship, but at the time, I just wasn't ready for that commitment. I definitely had feelings for her but they were not on the same level. Anyway, after a year or two, we went our seperate ways and I never saw her again. Though I've often wondered about her and thought I may have made a mistake back then by not pursuing a relationship.
Now to March of 2009. We found eachother on facebook. We instantly picked up right where we left off. We chatted online for hours the very first night, just catching up etc. After a few nights of this, I offered up my phone number and told her to call me sometime if she wanted to. I know this was probably wrong, but there was always something about her.
She called. We talked for like four hours that first night. Then again the next night, and the next, and the next. You get the point! We talked every night for weeks. Her husband was out of town working. She made it clear that her marriage was on the skids and she wanted out. The problem? Two small kids and one on the way. She found out she was pregnant a week before we started talking. When she told me, she cried. I wanted her to be happy and not feel bad about it. At this point, I should've walked away but I just couldnt.
To make a long story short, we continued to talk through her pregnancy and continue to this day. It's been 14 months now since we re-connected. I knew she couldn't just up and leave while she was pregnant so I waited. She had the baby in October. So now, seven months later, I'm becoming impatient. She's told me time after time that she's very unhappy and wants to be with me, but she doesn't want to look like the bad guy by asking for a divorce. And of course, she's also worried about her kids. I understand all this and try to be understanding. But something needs to happen. I've invested over a year in this girl and now I want something to happen.
We still talk and exchange a dozen texts or more a every day. We've seen eachother only a few times because she lives in another state. But there's no doubt, we are in love and want desperately to be with each other. I've even offered to pay for the divorce if she needs it and to pick up my life here in NC and move six hours away to be with her. I don't have kids so it's not a big problem for me. I don't know what else to do. I've offered everything I can think of to make the divorce as easy as possible. She keeps saying it's coming, but doesn't know when. She would rather her hubby be the one to ask for it. I undeerstand that, but like I told her, every day you wait is another day we could've been together.
I feel like I'm reaching the end of my patience. I'm 37 and really want to start a life with someone. I want it to be her because we seem perfect for each other, but how long can I wait? I love this woman very much and want to be with her.
Any advice or tips or comments?