I am new to this whole forum thing, but I am out of places to turn for answers and help with this issue I'm having. Any advice is greatly appreciated!
So I'll start from the beginning. I am in a new relationship with a wonderful man. We met on new years eve and have been virtually inseparable ever since. I have a long history of terrible boyfriends so this dating an awesome and genuine guy is brand new to me. Our relationship, even though we haven't been together long, has been perfect in almost every way so far. He is always there for me, he treats me with love and respect. He goes out of his way to ensure that I am comfortable and happy. I trust him completely and is the type of man I can see myself marrying one day. And it doesn't hurt that he is drop dead gorgeous!
With all of that said there is one major issue. From the beginning he told me that he has a low libido, but at the time I didn't think much of it. But I never expected it to be the way it is. He is 27 and I am 23 and I have a very healthy sexual appetite. Not just sex, but intimacy, is a huge part of any relationship I'm in. In the beginning he did work hard to give it to me when I asked for it and it didn't seem to be a problem. In fact, the first several weeks were great. But since then, I have had to literally twist his arm to have sex with me or give me any kind of sexual intimacy at all whatsoever. As of today it has been over a month since the last time we had any sort of sexual contact. He hasn't even so much as flirted with me. No telling me he thinks I'm sexy, no playful grabbing or fooling around, making out, etc. the way that two people in a brand bew relationship and are in love should do. And the last time we attempted to have sex was unsuccessful. I feel that he only attempted because I was upset and he wanted to make me happy, but then he couldn't stay erect and it ended there. This has been such a huge blow to my ego to the point that I have even stopped trying to get him interested in being intimate with me. I am very confused and distraught over this because I have never dealt with anything like it before.
He insists that he just has no interest in sex in general and that it has nothing to do with me, but I can't help but feel that it's my fault. That i just don't turn him on and he's not attracted to me. It would devastate me if our relationship suffered or even ended because of this so I am desperate for some answers. But I don't know how to approach him about it without hurting his feelings. So anyone, please tell me what's going on here. Is this normal? Could it be a biological or psychological problem he has? Or is it just that I am not attractive to him? Is there any way to work this out or will I have to choose between being without him or never having sex again as long as we're together? I need help! Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this and contribute some input. It is very much appreciated.