Need to break up when he's pre-paid for so many things. SOOOO guilty. Help!
Ok, those of you who have followed my posts, I obviously have not clicked with my newest beau, and I am going to break it off with him. We have been together 2.5 months. Over the last month or so, I have been 'giving things a chance'-- a chance to be around him, get to know him more, see how things go once his firey, clingy behavior lessens and the honeymoon phase dampens.
Well, after that month of seeing how I feel and getting to know him better, his over-the-top behavior hadn't changed much, but I do not want to continue with him. He annoys me for several reasons, and I know that if I go further with him, these annoyances will only get worse. And I don't want to waste his time or mine. Problem is, he has voluntarily pre-paid for me a ski pass (even after I admitted I was not a huge fan of skiing), a plane ticket to his home town (departing in 3 weeks), back massages, etc, etc. that we still have to schedule or use. I feel so guilty for saying yes to these things. But I didn't want to say no and make him think I wasn't interested, because I was interested. But he killed it with just being too much: too many texts about nothing, saying I love you too soon, mentioning 'our kids', buying so many things for me, etc. I was trying to be positive about the relationship and give him the benfit of the doubt. But he's done way too much way too fast, and I feel like he's trying to buy my love. I don't think it's intentional though, I think he's just generous and genuinely likes me (well, he's said he loves me). I have already told him I need to go slower, but I don't think his idea of slower matches mine.
Now I have to break things off. I want to offer to pay my half of everything, but I am a student and don't have the money right now. Would it be fair to offer to pay for those things later, or leave him with what he agreed to pay for in the first place? I will not indulge myself (or him) by waiting to break up with him in order to do these things and go on these trips with him, when I'm truly not interested in him. So please don't suggest that! Thx.
Who you are screams so loudly I can hardly hear what you're saying!