Originally Posted by
TheEvilJester
To be honest with you, here's is what I personally think regarding his "I was too busy" excuse for not calling you...... IF that were really true, then a quick text message, an e-mail, or whatever would have been nice just to let you know. That only takes a minute. To tell you he was going to call and then just flat out not do it is inconsiderate, rude, and just unacceptable.
It is similarly unacceptable that he is leading you on, which is exactly what I get the impression he is doing. The only thing I can say in his defense is at least he did try to let you down. He just tried to pull the let you down easy route that almost never works, and for exactly the reasons you explain. Telling somebody something like "I'm not ready for any relationship right now" gives them the false hope that saying you aren't ready "right now" means you will be ready soon and there could be hope for them then.
The truth is, probably about 999 times out of 1000, "I'm not ready for a relationship right now" means "I'm not interested in you." Okay. Maybe 998 times out of 1000. One of the other times it means "I'm not ready for a relationship right now..... but I'm also not interested in you even when I am ready."
Believe me, I understand how you feel. And, I will say this.... he probably THOUGHT he was doing the right thing in letting you down easy.... but this is exactly why it is very much NOT the right thing. Because, here you are left wondering if there is still a chance if you just give him time. When, chances are he probably just isn't interested in dating you. You've even tried to talk to him so he can just come clean and tell you the truth.... but he just chooses to keep avoiding you.
So, at this point I would suggest you just assume he has no interest and move on. I mean, think of it like this.... Let's pretend for a moment that I am wrong and he was being 100% honest. He actually just isn't ready for a relationship right now, but otherwise could have maybe had interest in you. It certainly is possible. Highly unlikely, but possible. .... Well, even if that was the case.... honestly, why would you want to sit around waiting, putting your life on hold for somebody who may never decide they are "ready" to date you. Or, heck... you may wait around, he'll decide he's ready to get back into the dating world.... and he'll proceed to go dating somebody else and just forget about you completely.
You do not deserve to put your life on hold waiting for something that may never happen, and you certainly don't deserve the pain of waiting only to find out you've waited for nothing. So, for now just assume he has not interest. Move on and find somebody else. Heck.... if in time he changes his mind, that's fine. Let him come back to you, and then if you are still interested you could maybe consider giving him a second chance. But, don't wait around, don't try to convince him to give you a chance. If he can't see you are worth his time without you basically having to force him, then he doesn't deserve you in the first place.
Good luck to you.