Originally Posted by
luckykristina
've been casually seeing this guy for a month - He came on very strong at first. He would drive 50mi to come over a few times a week, text me daily and even get mad at me for "texting back too slow". He decided to leave one morning and deliberately ignore me for a week. So I ignored him back for another week -because that was rude and Im stubborn. When I decided to respond to his text (after a week) he was all excited and drove 50mi to see me... Leaves the next day, but this time he left his shirt (his favorite band T, btw) but has not initiated any contact for 4 days.
He seems to come on strong then pull back - very hot and cold. No he's leaving his things at my place, but ignoring me.
I don't like this- What should I do?
This is how it goes when you are in a booty call situation. He's not doing bonding rituals with you because he doesn't want you to put strings on the sex.
If you don't want to be a booty call then stop being booty. It's that simple.
BTW: You are playing games just as much if not more then him because you've agreed to be in a casual sexual relationship but your intentions are clearly stating that you want more then an orgasm from this douche. Make up YOUR mind what you want and then ask for that. if you don't have the nerve to talk to him then just accept the booty calls when them come and stop expectations of any kind other then getting laid.
Casual is what he is giving you. If you want more then communicate and if he doesn't want more then YOU have a decision to make.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion