Hi,
I just need some advice as I am in kind of a dilemma now.
This is the whole situation: About 4 days back, I patched back with my ex-girlfriend. We were together for around 3 years during which there was a 6 months break up. After the 2nd break up, its was almost 1 year before the patch back 4 days back.
Basically she has been the pro-active party in this patch back. She told me lots of stuff about finding an actually person who really understands her and wanting to spend the rest of her life with me.
Initially I was pretty firm about my decision not to patch back but I related with the many touching things she said. In a way, I must say I have always knew I wanted to spend my life with her in the earlier 3year relationship. I really loved her but let her go then because I felt we were drifting apart. When she asked me about patching back, I did have some of those feelings coming back not totally.
After only 4 days of this re-kindled relationship, I am having some reservations. Mainly because I feel we have developed into very different characters over the past 1 year(our characters were quite different in the past but complemented in a unique way)I feel that this change taken away some(not all) of the feeling that she is the one I want to spend my life with. We did some intimate things like making out but not to the extent of intercourse. Somehow everything felt different, I can't pinpoint the problem but it seems that somehow, I don't really view her as the one I am destined to be with although I can honestly say I still love her a lot.
I am very torn now as to whether I should let this relationship continue to see if it works out cause I really love her. Yet I thought of breakup now since its still in the early stages so as to lessen the hurt since she initiated the patch back.
It is very hard to make an independent decision but I hope that you can give me some advice on this issue.
Sincere thanks to all replies