Originally Posted by
michelle23
you need to look at yourself OP. the problem is you. this is a pattern that has repeated itself over and over again so what are you doing wrong? you probably have bad taste in men. do you wear your heart on your sleeve and ignore all the early warning signs and red flags? the common denominator here is you. are all these men alike? what type of personality are you drawn towards?
each time you get burned your supposed to learn from that and learn what to avoid the next time. maybe counselling would help you to make some positive changes so you learn to spot the bad guys early and also ensure that how you look and act attracts the right ones.
are you too nice? do you have doormat, vulnerable, naive wriiten all over you? are you a damsel in distress type or do you look for a man that you can save or change or fix? are you co-dependent?
what can you change toxptevent this happening again?
Michelle, I know where you are coming from, but I must say I dislike your post. This is not the OPs problem; its the men who cheated.
@ Jessica - I think you are a strong woman with good values. Kudos to you for being strong enough to leave these men who would treat you this way--many women wouldn't leave even after their men cheated.
I do agree with Michelle that you should try to figure out what these men had in common and try to avoid these kinds of men in future. Or, you could have just been unlucky, there is also that.
Don't give up hope. There are many wonderful men out there with good values who will love you and be faithful. Some of them have been cheated on by women--it goes both ways. Love can be very healing. Keep your heart open but be wiser about who you give it to. Learn to trust your gut if something doesn't seem right. Good luck.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh