Alright, It's me again ( you can see my last post here - [url]http://www.loveforum.net/threads/28182-Strange-Relationship...-Truly..-Madly..-Deeply....-how-shud-it-progress-further[/url])
Now the girl accepted my proposal but i'm not yet confident abt getting married... the same number (age) issues. I'm still pursuing my graduation and I do not have a secured job to start a family.
but still I'm ready to marry her.. but my parents, my brother, sisters, relatives and all others have lots of expectation about me.. and my future wife and my future life.. but this girl is about 12years older than me.. in addition.. society always has problem with it.
She's now very upset about the "age gap" reason I have mentioned.. but I told her this only after thinking from all the angles... financial, mental, physical, emotional etc.,
I still want her as my best friend.. but she's not agreeing with this.. She wants a final decision.. either marry her or just leave her alone...
I'm in great confusion.... should I respect my family/relatives/spiritual/ values or leave these matters and go marry her and move on... by leaving everyone and the society and live in a remote area ?
Please kindly advice..
Thanks a lot in advance..
[u]EDIT:[/ul]
One of the big issues is that THERE'S NO ONE ELSE TO MARRY HER IF NOT ME :-( because she's not very good in personality (very chubby) and not good at appearance also. But I can't even imagine her to stay single all her life... and I can't even imagine her death before mine :-(
What can I do ?????? or what should I do ??? ;-( She's the one who COMPLETELY helped me in my career :-(
Cultural values in my country:
here in India, we have great cultural values.. parents and relatives and elders here look for spouses for their children and it's really bad for a girl or boy to stay unmarried all their life... society here starts off talking bad about the parents if they have unmarried daughter of 20+ years and unmarried son of 25+ years...
Most of the families here live jointly with their married children... and relatives often meetup several times and stay in touch always.....