My Boyfriend and I have been together since our last year of college. We decided to move in together 2 years ago and then decied to buy a house a year and a half ago. We put it in his name due to some credit issues of mine and was told that we would put the house in both of our names once we got married. We have now been together for 4 years this coming January. We also live with his brother who is 23 years old going on 18 years old. He is immature messy and ungrateful. He is still in college and has his buddies sweaty asses on my couch all day long. He only works from 2-6 and had 2 classes a week. I keep the fridge stocked and toilitries stocked all the time. I am just fed up with living in a frat house. I want nice things and I want them to stay nice. My boyfriend doesnt have the heart to stand up to his brother and to be honest is just as messy himself. I brought up the idea of engagement and was told by my boyfriend that "there is a checklist of things that i need to work on " before he would consider proposing... I'm very hurt by this! My only idea to fix this ongoing issue is to move out for a little while and let him see the advantages and disadvantages of living with and without me. I love him and i would love to move forwad with him but i can live like an animal anymore. I want my own space to clear my head , but i dont want to leave him. I want to take time for us like we used to when we were first dating. Acually make time for him and I not having me right there! one of his main concerns is finances. How is he going to afford this house now that im leaving. I think he should have worked harder on us to ensure that i wanted to stay around. He thinks me moving out will push us farther apart...I think me moving out will lessen my biching ! Please help...