I Think She's Going to End it..

[ransom_nite]

Well guys and girls, i think my almost 2 and a half year relationship may be ending today If anyone has read my threads from yesterday i said my girlfriend has been acting weird and doubting our future and she rang this morning and said there is something really important she's been thinking about and is going to let me know tonight and her voice sounded dead and uneventful.

I'm worried absolutely sick, i feel like i'm going to vomit and i can't stop shaking I'm not going to be able to handle it if she breaks up with me. I don't know what else to say, i mean i love this girl with my life, i thought she was the one and now for her to just want to leave it? Of course she will have her reasons but gahh i don't know anymore.. **** i hate life.

[vashti]

Well, let's try not to worry prematurely. It might be something else all together.

**hugs**

[ransom_nite]

Thanks for the hug vashh, I know i'm trying not to worry but a part of me can't help it

[vashti]

Have you been fighting lately?

[ransom_nite]

Not at all? We have had one fight throughout our whole relationship and it lasted a few hours. That's why i'm so confused? And i have to wait until tonight to find out so i'm stuck feeling like this all day.

[vashti]

You have a lot more patience than I do... when she said "we need to talk", I would have said "why? are you breaking up with me?"

Now I guess we will have to wait. It might be something else all together. Holidays can be a difficult time of year.

[Gribble]

Kind of crumby of her to drop something like that on you and then expect you to wait all day. Sorry, man. Whatever happens, I'm sure things will turn out for the best. Eventually.

[ransom_nite]

Hmm i should have said that, but yes we are stuck waiting. I hope it is something else, I'm not religious or anything but i pray to god everything is fine.

[vashti]

I'll keep you in my thoughts, sweety. We've all been there.

[Cain]

The one thing that you need to remember is that you don't need her in your life. You simply want her in your life. If you feel like you can't live without her, then you need to work on that. You're giving her too much control. I don't expect you to really be able to listen to that, because I was definitely in your shoes just four months ago, but I can tell you now that your attitude will eventually change.

I hope that it's nothing major. I do think it was wrong of her to make you wait all day though.

[ecojeanne]

oh ransom, i was really hoping my opinion from earlier was wrong, and i still hope it is. don't fret yet until she tells you straight. it's better that she tells you rather than avoiding it which a lot of people can tend to do. lets hope, fingers crossed xx

[1averagejoe]

The one thing that you need to remember is that you don't need her in your life. You simply want her in your life. If you feel like you can't live without her, then you need to work on that. You're giving her too much control. I don't expect you to really be able to listen to that, because I was definitely in your shoes just four months ago, but I can tell you now that your attitude will eventually change.

I hope that it's nothing major. I do think it was wrong of her to make you wait all day though.

I agree completely with what you said...and I was also in your shoes. People telling me don't do this, that it's stupid, don't let yourself do this you're going to get yourself hurt. It all flew over my head. You're in too deep mate, best of luck with this.

Let's hope for the best, I know it's hard.

[ransom_nite]

Well guys she just rang me then and told me what it was! Holy shit I am one relieved human being right now.

Long story short she was meant to be moving back here next February for good, but the problem was it might not be until next August now, because she just got another job that she is considering taking that isn't until the start of July, I mean it still isn't the best news as we may have to put up with another 5 or so months of LD but **** I feel good now, ahh.

I told her about how I have been feeling this morning and she said it was the craziest thing i've ever said and she won't ever leave me etc etc. Glad to say our relationship is still alive!! Thanks for being there guys

[ecojeanne]

oh ransom thats great news, sorry for putting more doubts into your head, forgive me! yay for good news!

[Cain]

I'm happy for you. I do still think, however, that you should stop thinking that you need her in your life. You should be thinking that you compliment each other well and that she fits well into your life. But you shouldn't be dependent on her being with you. This is for your benefit in case a breakup ever does happen.